Should I Give My Ex Another Chance?

I never had the desire to date anyone from my past, once I am completely done with someone I cut off all contact. I erase his number, unfollow him on social media; I just make it crystal clear I am no longer interested in dating him under any circumstances. As I am sitting here writing this I really can't think of anyone from my past that I am remotely interested in.  I just always want to make sure "the door is closed"  *In my Nene voice* Lol. 

Now that I am well into my 30s my perspective on dating someone from my past has changed a bit.  I will be honest and say dating in your 30s is really hard and it has a lot to do with time. As we get older we acquire more responsibilities. Most of us are full swing into our careers which could mean longer hours and more stress at work. Some of us have children and are tending to their needs like extracurricular activities among other things. Then our parents are getting older and may need assistance. Once you add up all these scenarios you are just tired at the end of the day and it doesn't leave much time to go out anywhere and meet someone.

I know my ladies are saying men have more options so they don't have to date anyone from their past, but any good man is going to have the same responsibilities as a woman. He should be advancing in his career and taking care of his kids and parents the same as a woman does. If he is not, then ladies you don't need him anyway. 

There are also dangers in dating someone from your past. If you follow my blog I have expressed in previous posts that I do not believe people change, only their circumstances. We are who we are at the core. So, if you are going to date someone from your past you need to understand they probably haven't changed much since the last time you dating him or her. I do believe sometimes your circumstances can make you a bad candidate for a mate such as lack of employment, financial issues, and just overall drama and chaos in your life. Non the less, these are things that can change if you want. Once this person changes these issues in their life they may actually be a person from your past you may want to give another shot at dating. 

Overall, use your best judgment when dipping back into your past. An ex is an ex for a reason and more than likely the relationship didn't work out the first time because you weren't compatible. Getting to know a new person can be scary and sometimes pulling someone from your past is just easier because whether it's the good or ugly you know what you are getting with a past situation, but love is risky. Anyone who you are willing to spend the rest of your life with requires risk and if you choose the right person it will be worth it in the end.